Comments on: STAGES in Christian Dating/Courtship Relationship http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/ …the JOURNEY of pursuing INTIMACY with God while WAITING… Wed, 16 Dec 2009 13:01:17 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Emmanuela http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1818 Emmanuela Wed, 16 Dec 2009 13:01:17 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1818 ur site is educative Kip it up and God bless ur site is educative Kip it up and God bless

]]> By: Emmanuela http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1817 Emmanuela Wed, 16 Dec 2009 12:57:22 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1817 learnt a lot of ur site,pls kip it up God bless u learnt a lot of ur site,pls kip it up God bless u

]]> By: God is Love http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1816 God is Love Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:32:11 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1816 Hi, I'm 25 and im currently in a Relationship it will almost be 2 years, and we are at the preparation stage to get in engaged but finances are not as stable as we would like to get married soon after we get engaged rather then have a long engagement. In saying this we are both children of parents that are pastors and we are both music ministers but in different parts of the body of christ and we are very strong individuals especially when we are apart, but in the last year we have slipped a few times and we now have soul ties. Since then we don't really spend time alone as we both have busy lives any way, we have tried to part and focus on individual but we have ended up together we know that we are strong enough to continue to finish gods work and to put him first. With both of us being musicians we are constantly on the road separately so some times when we do eventually meet up it can get a little heated from missing one another and im normally the first one to stop it because i can feel god pulling at my heart when its happening but i think i purposly ignore it. Today god has picked me up on a few things to work on and im seeking him for direction me and my partner have been through quite alot family, career and relationship wise. and we are at a stage NOW were we are not gonna focus so much on our relaitonship together but on our relationship with god because i know that once our relationship with god is on point then our relationship together will be stronger and as we hardly see each other any way that on our day offs to not rush to want to see each other but to focus and be prayerful for each other on those days. I find it amazing because we know what we need to do its just saying NO to the flesh on those weak days and that is what we are working on. I just want to know what your thought is on this. Hi,

I’m 25 and im currently in a Relationship it will almost be 2 years, and we are at the preparation stage to get in engaged but finances are not as stable as we would like to get married soon after we get engaged rather then have a long engagement.

In saying this we are both children of parents that are pastors and we are both music ministers but in different parts of the body of christ and we are very strong individuals especially when we are apart, but in the last year we have slipped a few times and we now have soul ties. Since then we don’t really spend time alone as we both have busy lives any way, we have tried to part and focus on individual but we have ended up together we know that we are strong enough to continue to finish gods work and to put him first.

With both of us being musicians we are constantly on the road separately so some times when we do eventually meet up it can get a little heated from missing one another and im normally the first one to stop it because i can feel god pulling at my heart when its happening but i think i purposly ignore it.

Today god has picked me up on a few things to work on and im seeking him for direction me and my partner have been through quite alot family, career and relationship wise. and we are at a stage NOW were we are not gonna focus so much on our relaitonship together but on our relationship with god because i know that once our relationship with god is on point then our relationship together will be stronger and as we hardly see each other any way that on our day offs to not rush to want to see each other but to focus and be prayerful for each other on those days.

I find it amazing because we know what we need to do its just saying NO to the flesh on those weak days and that is what we are working on.

I just want to know what your thought is on this.

]]> By: Sharon http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1815 Sharon Sun, 13 Dec 2009 03:25:01 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1815 It sounds like both of you are weak in your relationship with God. The fact that you stayed in a previous relationship for 4 years is quite disturbing. I'm assuming you were not a Christian at that time. The two of you need to break up and assess your relationship with God because He is who comes first and not the two of you. Many Christians who date seem to always want to push the envelope. "Hmmm, I wonder how far we can go without having sex?" This is a trick of Satan and many fall into that trap. The two of you have soul ties now and you may not even end up getting married. Frankly, you have tainted and possibly derailed the progress of your relationship. If neither one of you are in the position to get married, then you really shouldn't even be considering it. If that man cannot take care of you spiritually, emotionally, and financially, then the two of you should NOT be in a relationship. And now that the two of you have soul ties, it will be 10 times harder to break up. You don't need signs from God. You need to go to His Word and look it up for yourself. Once you get your life focused on God and filled with the Holy Spirit, you will hear His voice too telling you what you should and should not be doing. Right now, you're hearing your own voice and it will keep you in sin. Don't even think about praying as a couple. You can pray FOR each other but not together. That is way too intimate. You should be praying as individuals. If your lifestyles don't line up with the Bible then you guys have problems. You need to split up and focus on God. Then if God feels you two belong together, He will orchestrate the match. What I'm saying may sound a bit harsh but it's the truth. God wants to spare you heartache. It sounds like both of you are weak in your relationship with God. The fact that you stayed in a previous relationship for 4 years is quite disturbing. I’m assuming you were not a Christian at that time. The two of you need to break up and assess your relationship with God because He is who comes first and not the two of you. Many Christians who date seem to always want to push the envelope. “Hmmm, I wonder how far we can go without having sex?” This is a trick of Satan and many fall into that trap. The two of you have soul ties now and you may not even end up getting married. Frankly, you have tainted and possibly derailed the progress of your relationship.

If neither one of you are in the position to get married, then you really shouldn’t even be considering it. If that man cannot take care of you spiritually, emotionally, and financially, then the two of you should NOT be in a relationship. And now that the two of you have soul ties, it will be 10 times harder to break up.

You don’t need signs from God. You need to go to His Word and look it up for yourself. Once you get your life focused on God and filled with the Holy Spirit, you will hear His voice too telling you what you should and should not be doing. Right now, you’re hearing your own voice and it will keep you in sin. Don’t even think about praying as a couple. You can pray FOR each other but not together. That is way too intimate. You should be praying as individuals. If your lifestyles don’t line up with the Bible then you guys have problems. You need to split up and focus on God. Then if God feels you two belong together, He will orchestrate the match.

What I’m saying may sound a bit harsh but it’s the truth. God wants to spare you heartache.

]]> By: Carmen brew http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1814 Carmen brew Fri, 11 Dec 2009 21:37:38 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1814 Hello, I am 21 and I have been in a relationship for 6 months now! We have known eachother for awhile now. We were in relationships with other people but I knew in the back of my mind that there was something about him that I wanted.... being confused and being in a 4 year relatonship with someone else I gave my situation to God! I prayed that God would give me a sign if the relationship I was in wasn't his plan and he knows my heart and to lead me where he wants me to be..... shortly after my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me and (current boyfriend) broke up with his girlfriend.... we didn't speak at this time so I honestly felt that God was giving me a sign! We didn't rush into a relationship didn't talk about one we just spent time together and started over! Well after 4 months we gave it a title its 6 months later and on Thanksgiving he said that he wants to get engaged if we can hold out on sex for a year...... and after that year he will purpose to me! Before this we did slip up and have sex.... we tried many times to not do it but one time lead to many! I believe it will work... and its what. Want but I want to staart praying together as a couple! I need a prayer that will give us strength to hold out and give ourselves completely to God! Hello,
I am 21 and I have been in a relationship for 6 months now! We have known eachother for awhile now. We were in relationships with other people but I knew in the back of my mind that there was something about him that I wanted…. being confused and being in a 4 year relatonship with someone else I gave my situation to God! I prayed that God would give me a sign if the relationship I was in wasn’t his plan and he knows my heart and to lead me where he wants me to be….. shortly after my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me and (current boyfriend) broke up with his girlfriend…. we didn’t speak at this time so I honestly felt that God was giving me a sign! We didn’t rush into a relationship didn’t talk about one we just spent time together and started over! Well after 4 months we gave it a title its 6 months later and on Thanksgiving he said that he wants to get engaged if we can hold out on sex for a year…… and after that year he will purpose to me! Before this we did slip up and have sex…. we tried many times to not do it but one time lead to many! I believe it will work… and its what. Want but I want to staart praying together as a couple! I need a prayer that will give us strength to hold out and give ourselves completely to God!

]]> By: Sharon http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1809 Sharon Fri, 04 Dec 2009 16:58:53 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1809 Kizito, I didn't hear you mention anything about God in your post. That's the one major mistake that singles(those not married) make. Your center focus is supposed to be on deepening your relationship with God and not worried about necessarily getting married, especially when you haven't finished accomplishing your goals and bettering yourself. The "confusion" you're feeling is simply lack of peace. If you are doing God's will, you will not be confused because God is not the author of confusion. You and this girl need to be friends right now and let God handle the rest. If it's meant for you to marry her, you will. Otherwise, stop stressing and go to God in prayer. If you are not at peace, then something is wrong. Kizito,

I didn’t hear you mention anything about God in your post. That’s the one major mistake that singles(those not married) make. Your center focus is supposed to be on deepening your relationship with God and not worried about necessarily getting married, especially when you haven’t finished accomplishing your goals and bettering yourself.

The “confusion” you’re feeling is simply lack of peace. If you are doing God’s will, you will not be confused because God is not the author of confusion. You and this girl need to be friends right now and let God handle the rest. If it’s meant for you to marry her, you will. Otherwise, stop stressing and go to God in prayer. If you are not at peace, then something is wrong.

]]> By: kizito http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1807 kizito Wed, 02 Dec 2009 12:17:25 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1807 am confuse on the woman i want to marry. i am in a relationship with a lady but am confuse that i wont marry her because my parent says she is a poor girl.the lady also has a vision to become someone successful in life one day.i am also busy studying in the university to achieve my goal so we can marry,but i`m not all sure that our marraige will come to pass.i love the lady but my mind is not too much on her,but my goal.i assume that even if we break up i still have my goal to achieve. what should i do am confuse on the woman i want to marry. i am in a relationship with a lady but am confuse that i wont marry her because my parent says she is a poor girl.the lady also has a vision to become someone successful in life one day.i am also busy studying in the university to achieve my goal so we can marry,but i`m not all sure that our marraige will come to pass.i love the lady but my mind is not too much on her,but my goal.i assume that even if we break up i still have my goal to achieve. what should i do

]]> By: belovedheart http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1798 belovedheart Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:52:32 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1798 Hello Alejandro! I found this Article in a Christian Site and I think it is very helpful thats why I posted it here on my website....as for your request I believe the writer Dr. Jim Reves can best address it and give the scriptural support for his concept on Christian dating. Thank you! Ps; click on the source at the end of the article for the link to the writer's website.... Hello Alejandro!

I found this Article in a Christian Site and I think it is very helpful thats why I posted it here on my website….as for your request I believe the writer Dr. Jim Reves can best address it and give the scriptural support for his concept on Christian dating. Thank you!

Ps; click on the source at the end of the article for the link to the writer’s website….

]]> By: Alejandro http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1797 Alejandro Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:14:59 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1797 This is very nice, but I notice it does not have a single reference to the Bible. Can you kindly make some references to passages in the scripture that may support this concept of Christian dating? This is very nice, but I notice it does not have a single reference to the Bible. Can you kindly make some references to passages in the scripture that may support this concept of Christian dating?

]]> By: Philip Okogie http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1791 Philip Okogie Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:29:48 +0000 http://belovedheart.wordpress.com/2007/03/11/stages-in-christian-datingcourtship-relationship/#comment-1791 Thanks so much for such a wonderful site dealing with a very important aspect of the life of the christian community. God Bless you richly. Thanks so much for such a wonderful site dealing with a very important aspect of the life of the christian community. God Bless you richly.

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