02.29.08
When TRUST is BROKEN…you can still LOVE the person & choose not to be in a RELATIONSHIP anymore…
Trust is more important, and more valuable in a relationship than love. To be trusted, or to give trust to another person, is so private, so precious a gift, one must treasure this more than anything, because once lost, all becomes mechanical, irrelevant and ambivalent. Trust.
Trust is a silk thread between lovers. So easily broken it must be protected. Once broken trust is hard to repair, but totally possible. Firstly, if someone broke your trust, stop blaming them. No one can break your trust more than you do to yourself. Were you lying to yourself? Did you really want to be somewhere else? Did you feel committed but not wanting to stay? The real solution to healing broken trust is to stop blaming them and accept that you have the power to cause people to break your trust. Otherwise if you think someone broke your trust you’ll never ever trust them again – and for that matter, you’ll not trust others too. Loose trust for one, loose trust for all. “don’t leave em till you love em.”
We have a habit of thinking that if we blame some situation and move away from it, we’ll be better. If you meet someone who tells you they left the last relationship because of the behaviour of their last partner, run for your life. They are so full of shit. Lying to themselves, and now you. And guess what? “You’re next” Blame is a poison and one that infects so many people. You must consider whether you are blaming your partner for your inherent misery. Thinking you can escape by dumping this one for that one, is going to prove a fruitless chase.
Learn the difference between love and relationship. You can love someone and still leave. If you love someone you are really aware that there is nothing about them that you don’t have in you, and there’s nothing about you that isn’t divine. So, lets say it again. You are a divine being. Everything you see is just a reflection of you. Therefore, everything you see and every one you meet, is worthy of love.
If you can separate love from relationship, there’s no need to have a relationship with all people you love, and there’s no need to love all people you have a relationship with. Love however, is a requisite for moving out of a relationship you are in. Because love frees you. Once you love someone you can choose whether you want a relationship or not, this is far better than running away and therefore into your problems.
Source : RELATIONSHIPS
02.25.08
Bible Journey: SELF-CONTROL
Meditations on Proverbs…
“28 Like a city whose walls are broken down
is a man who lacks self-control.”
(Proverbs 25:28)
SELF-CONTROL is define as…
the act of denying yourself; controlling your impulses;
the trait of resolutely controlling your own behaviour;
(Word Web Dictionary)
Self-control is holding back your EMOTIONS…
and a WISE man has self-control & a FOOL lacks self-control…
“11 A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back.”
(Proverbs 29:11)
Self-control is a FRUIT of the Holy Spirit…
“22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. 25Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.”
(Galtians 5:20-26)
Self-control is Holy-Spirit inspired DISCIPLINE…
crucifying our SINFUL NATURE with its PASSION & DESIRES…
“16So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. 17For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want.”
(Galatians 5:16-17)
Our Prayer:
Heavenly Father, thank you so much for your LOVE…thank you for Your Holy Spirit that fill our HEARTS…we pray that the seed of SELF-CONTROL will continue to GROW in our hearts & bear much FRUITS in our lives as we journey together with You. In Jesus Name we pray. Amen.
02.08.08
I Love The Way You Love Me
by Boyzone
I like the feel of your name on my lips
And I like the sound of your sweet gentle kiss
The way that your fingers run through my hair
And how your scent lingers even when you’re not there
And I like the way your eyes dance when you laugh
And how you enjoy your two-hour bath
And how you’ve convinced me to dance in the rain
With everyone watching like we were insane
But I love the way you love me
Strong and wild, slow and easy
Heart and soul so completely
I love the way you love me
And I like the sound of old R ‘n’ B
And you roll your eyes when I’m sloppily off key
And I like the innocent way that you cry
At sappy old movies you’ve seen thousands of times
CHORUS
(Listen to me now..)
And I could list a million things
I love to like about you
But they all come down to one reason
I could never live without you..
All My Life
by K-Ci & Jojo
I Will Never Find Another Lover
Sweeter Than You
Sweeter Than You
And I Will Never Find Another Lover
More Precious Than You
More Precious Than You
Girl You Are..
Close To Me Just Like My Mother,
Close To Me Just Like My Father,
Close To Me Just Like My Sister,
Close To Me Just Like My Brother
And You Are The Only One My Everything
And For You This Song I Sing….
All My Life
I Prayed For Someone Like You
And I Thank God
That I..That I Finally Found You
All My Life
I Prayed For Someone Like You
And I Hope That You Feel The Same Way Too
Yes, I Pray That You Do Love Me Too
I’d Send You All That I’m Thinking Of……..Baby
Said I Promise To Never Fall In Love With A Stranger
You’re All I’m Thinking Of
I Praise The Lord Above
For Sending Me Your Love
I Cherish Every Hug
I Really Love You So Much
All My Life (Ohhhh..Baby, Baby)
I Prayed For Someone Like You
And I Thank God
That I…That I Finally Found You
All My Life
I Prayed For Someone Like You
And I Hope That You Feel The Same Way Too
Yes, I Pray That You Do Love Me Too
You’re All That I Ever Know,
When You Smile All My Face Always Seems To Glow,
You Turned My Life Around,
You Picked Me Up When I Was Down,
You’re All That I’ve Ever Known,
When You Smile My Face Glows
You Picked Me Up When I Was Down
Say…You’re All That I’ve Ever Known
When You Smile My Face Glows
You Picked Me Up When I Was Down
And I Hope That You
Feel The Same Way Too
Yes, I Pray That You Do Love Me Too
02.05.08
10 Ways to Close the Intimacy Gap in a Long Distance Relationship
Intimacy is a key survival ingredient in a long distance relationship. Without that feeling of connectedness, doubts and dissatisfaction start to emerge and can eventually lead to serious problems. Due to this, it’s even more important for couples in long distance relationships to find ways of keeping that feeling of togetherness. Fortunately, we’re here to help! Below are 10 ways to help you close the intimacy gap in your relationship. The main goal in presenting these ideas is to help you and your partner feel more involved in each other’s daily lives. You may not actually be there, but you can definitely make them feel like you’re a part of what’s going on!
1. Voice Memos Nothing can bridge the gap like the sound of your partner’s voice. Voice memos are one of the easiest and cost effective ways to achieve this. You can send your partner a voice memo key chain with the words “I love you” on it. You can get a voice memo photo frame and record “thinking of you always” on it. You can get a personal recorder and just say random thoughts about your day to your partner and send it to them at the end of the week. Many stuffed animal companies offer voice recordings inside of the toy. You could say different recordings such as, good night, sweet dreams, good morning, I love you, and so on. Today’s market has so many products available that your options are only limited by your creativeness.
2. Daily Journal/Blog Chances are you’re pretty Internet savvy if you are in a long distance relationship. If you are, sign up for a free blog somewhere and send your partner the username and password. Use this tool as a way to frequently communicate with each other about your daily life and thoughts. If you don’t have access to a blog, write a little something about your day each night. At the end of the week, mail your partner the letters.
3. Web Cam Dates When you’re missing your partner’s touch, a web cam date can be the closest remedy available. Frequently arrange a set time for these dates. Take turns planning on what you’ll talk about or do. Some couples have used these as an opportunity to share a romantic candlelit dinner, watch a movie together or even play games such as Battleship.
4. Shared Moments Once a day, stop and do the same thing at the exact same time. You could gaze at the stars, say a little prayer for your partner, send an instant message or take the time to write to each other. Just knowing that you are doing the same thing, at the same exact moment as your partner, can do wonders towards increasing your intimacy.
5. Let it Grow A plant is often referenced as a symbol of a growing relationship. Use this symbol in your romance by sending each other a plant to take care of. As the plant grows, press leaves or flowers to send to each other in your mailings. When the long distance aspect of your relationship ends, plant them side by side at your new dwelling.
6. Scrapbook of Our Relationship It often helps to have something to look back on while we are apart. A scrapbook or photo album is a great way to do this. Whenever you are together take LOTS of pictures. After you separate again collect the pictures and put them in an album. Write little notes about how you were feeling during the certain times the photographs were taken and tuck them under or next to the photograph. Make two copies and send one to your partner. Whenever you are feeling lonely, take out your book and remember all the fun times you’ve had together.
7. Journal of Love Letters Couples in long distance relationships are usually faced with more episodes of doubt than the typical relationship. To help counter this, make sure you are both sending letters to each other, even if by e-mail. Every so often, compile your communications and put them in a journal format. If you can, send your partner a copy of the journal as well. Now, whenever those feelings of doubt creep in, make a date with your journal and spend some time reflecting over how well you’ve have made it so far.
8. Make it Personal Send your partner an item of clothing or something personal that they can see or wear daily. It should be something that you use frequently that will instantly remind them of you. Sometimes it’s the littlest things that can make everything feel all right.
9. Framed Pictures There’s nothing like seeing your partner’s beautiful face daily. Let your face be the first thing they see each morning and the last each night. Make an effort to send framed pictures to your partner whenever possible. I’d try for a new one each month. You can make it more creative as well by having each picture reflect something about each month. For example, in December have a picture taken with Santa or in the snow. You can also use each month as an opportunity to share a moment in your life. Take a picture of you doing something you do every day. Each month pick a new daily task to take a picture of.
10. The Scent of Love One of the most effective ways to trigger an emotion is through the use of scent. When sending something to your partner, spray a bit of your cologne or perfume on it. You can spray things like a pillowcase, a stuffed toy, love letters or a piece of clothing.Remember, while long distance relationships aren’t easy, they can be the most rewarding. The time and effort you take to cultivate your intimacy now WILL transfer over into your future time together. The main goal here is to make each other feel like you are connected and involved in each other’s daily life. It is the number one success tip of any long distance relationship. If you can achieve this, you will be on the right path to a very successful long-term romance.
Source: Lovingyou.Com
Surviving The Wait
Anyone in an online relationship will tell you the same thing; the worst thing to handle is the distance and the waiting. The thoughts going through your head are enough to drive anyone crazy. A person in an online relationship can be worrying about anything and everything from looking okay to adjusting to a new city or country. So, how do you handle the little nagging thoughts in your head or the loneliness you feel at night?