PURPOSE of Courtship

March 11, 2007 at 7:46 am (Christian Dating, Commitment, Courtship, Love)

A. Courtship is an act of seeking to gain love or affection with a view toward marriage.
B. Courtship is the prelude to a possible engagement. It’s purpose is to provide a couple time to discover, assess, and evaluate their compatibility as potential lifelong marriage partners.
C. Courtship isn’t a time of experimentation but of exploration.
D. The activity of courtship is not a guarantee of engagement or marriage but a controlled step toward it, it must have some objective guides that will allow either party to stop the process, or at least slow it down.

The Three Phases of Courtship.
Courtship unfolds in three phases – exploration, confirmation and pledging.

A. Phase One :- Exploration
1. Courtship is not for strangers. To enter the exploration phase of courtship is to acknowledge that marriage is a possibility but not a promise.
2. The basic purpose of this phase is to allow the couple to explore and discover their own emotions beyond that of simple friendship.
3. Through their courtship experience, the couple learns to arrange their lives for the benefit of each other.
4. Common likes and dislikes are discovered, reinforced, and clarified. They leave this phase seeking concrete meaning and understanding for their new feelings.

B. Phase Two :- Confirmation
1. This phase brings the couple face to face with the need to reveal themselves and to be revealed.
2. During the process of confirmation, the couple learns lessons of give and take, overcoming frustrations, and handling jealousies, insecurities, misunderstanding, tenderness, and the exaltation of the other. All this aids the process of confirming their selection.
3. Through it all, sufficient confidence is achieved in the expression of each other’s love to declare the relationship publicly.
4. It is in the latter stage that the foundation of marriage is actually realized.

C. Phase three :- Pledging
1. During this phase of emotional maturation the image of marriage is exchanged for the reality. There is solidarity of thinking and feelings toward each other.
2. Not only is there a solidarity but there is a natural interdependence between the two, wherein they continually complement one another through their efforts.
3. They achieved a marriage of their souls that only awaits the calendar date.

(from the Article: “Christian Foundations for Marriage”)

8 Comments

  1. perkidawn said,

    We’re in the process of leading our daughters to an understanding of this concept right now. They are young, just 12 and 15, and many, if not all, of their friends are “dating”. By dating I mean the on-again, off-again, “he’s my boyfriend” (this week) mentality. I am going to have both girls read your post. It’s broken down into a very understandable process! Thanks for posting it!

  2. belovedheart said,

    Perkidawn,

    Thank you for your visit and glad that this posting can be of help to you and your girls. I pray that God will bless your daughters with wisdom as they step to the next level of maturity into womanhood and with obedient hearts to walk in God’s ways at all times. Blessings and love to you and your family!

    In Christ,
    Belovedheart

  3. steve240 said,

    Realize that there are pitfalls to courtship just like there are pitfalls to dating. Some authors promoting courtship don’t share the problems courtship can have.

    http://www.ikdg.wordpress.com

  4. alyssa said,

    i love studying this kind of thing. ive made a promise tpo go that i wouldnt give my heart away or stir up romantic love till its time. its been a rough road and im sure there are more struggles ahead. but reading things likje these and writting in my husband journal help me actually believe god has a perfect plan and timing for me and my future husband 🙂

  5. Funmi said,

    Yea am there already.

  6. http://www.prweb.com/releases/silkn/sensepilreview/prweb10193901.htm said,

    Greetings! Very useful advice within this article! It is the little changes that will make the greatest changes.
    Many thanks for sharing!

  7. Mozelle said,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on lawyer. Regards

  8. Ishmael said,

    I just to thank God through you for guiding us by the wisdom that is within you. Because you are working in very hard so that they will repent in their cardinal sin

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