What is God’s PURPOSE of MARRIAGE?

The Four-Fold Purpose of Marriage


One of the primary purposes of marriage is partnership. Or, I could more fittingly call it, companionship. When God created us, the scripture says, we were fearfully and wonderfully made, (See Psalms 139:14). Part of our make up is; God DID NOT create us to be alone. He specifically wired us for companionship and declared this revelatory truth when He stated, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (See Genesis 2:18).

The yearning we have for companionship is part of our spiritual DNA. God designed the partnership of marriage to fulfill that yearning. This divinely inspired partnership was designed to fortify both participants in ways that mere words cannot aptly express or define.

One of the ways this partnership fortifies, invigorates, relaxes and pleasures the participants is through sexual relations. Religion has taught us that we were not to enjoy sex. Not only do such doctrines contradict one of the crucial purposes for which God designed marriage; their sermons leave many couples gripped in harmful sexual bondage.

The truth is; God hot-wired us with a sex drive, and He intended for man and woman to express and joyfully fulfill their sexual desires with each other through the rites of passage of a covenant marriage.

Meditate on these facts; God engineered our body parts to fit perfectly together, (male to female). He programmed our bodies to respond to touch, taste, sight, sound and aroma. He installed in us the ability to become sexually aroused. Once aroused, our bodies automatically emit chemicals, aromas and sensitivities that heighten the sexual experience.

He wired us with capabilities to experience intense and immeasurable pleasure from foreplay and sexual intercourse. To top things off, He gave us the capacity to climax and enjoy orgasms. With all of those irrefutable truths and facts, pious religious folks continue to try and convince us that sex was never meant for pleasure. Go figure?

It shouldn’t take a 20-year study by Harvard researchers, a PhD, or a doctorate to understand and accept the fact that God gave us these capabilities for the sole purpose of enjoying sexual pleasures and for no other reason! (See Song of Solomon 4:11 and Proverbs 5:18-19).


Another vital purpose of marriage is procreation; the conceiving and bearing of offspring. The Lord God revealed this part of the four-fold purpose of marriage when He released these commanding words:

Genesis 1:28 (Amplified Bible)

And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth…

Jeremiah 29:5-6

5 Build ye houses, and dwell in them; and plant gardens, and eat the fruit of them;

6 Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.

His vision is to fill the earth with righteous men and women who bring forth righteous children, The Lord intended on parents instilling in their offspring – godly morals and family values, (See Proverbs 22:6). His plan is for this model of the family to multiply and flourish until the earth is filled with men and women who reverence and obey His Word.

In His infinite wisdom, the Lord God purposed for marriage to protect us from the consequences and devastation of a society engrossed in moral chaos and sexual immorality. Meditate on His words carefully…

Hebrews 13:4 (The Message)

Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.

Make no mistake about it; God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex. Marriage was and is the only pathway the Lord has ordained for a man and woman to engage in sexual relations. (See 1 Corinthians 7:2 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

The Lord has drawn this clearly marked point of demarcation because of the disastrous effects of promiscuity and loose sexual morals. (e.g. birth defects, unplanned and unwanted pregnancies, fatherless children, paternity fraud, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, emotional torment, heartbreaking disappointment) and the list goes on.

A marriage union between an honorable man and a virtuous woman protects a man and woman from the impurities of casual and illicit sex.

The Manifold Blessings of Marriage

The manifold blessings of being in a union ordained of God are innumerable. You delight in the most glorious, precious, beautiful and purest intimacy known to mankind. You engage in unfettered romance. You experience true love as it was sculptured by God.

You have the assurance that you are protected from the ravages of sexual degradation and immorality. You develop confidence and a clear conscience from knowing you did it God’s way. Countless men and women lie down with each other, but get up with a guilty conscience. With every sexual encounter they are tormented, knowing in their hearts that God adamantly disapproves of their casual and illicit affairs.

Concerning offspring; children need both parents! The joy, satisfaction and security of growing up in a balanced, loving and stable environment with both father and mother are immeasurable. I could go on and on describing and defining the benefits and blessings of marriage.

Know this; when marriage is done right, it is magnificent, beautiful, romantic, marvelous, awesome, exquisite, grand, fascinating, splendid and much, much more! Now that you know the four-fold purpose of marriage, may God bless you with a joyful and enriching union!

 Source: “The Four-Fold Purpose of Marriage” by Gillis Triplett



20 thoughts on “What is God’s PURPOSE of MARRIAGE?

  1. Thanks for your wonderful insight, as with any form of life changing events we should always study and look for the right solutions and follow our hearts… and it is never to late to say “I am sorry” for anything! Healing takes time, but worth it when you can forgive others.

    Thanks again,



  2. Donna

    I realize this was posted over two years ago. However, it is important to note that, while God does give us partnership and pleasure through marriage, those were not by any means God’s primary purpose for marriage. God created marriage as a means for us to live out the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If you read Ephesians 5 (any other scriptural references), men are told to love their wives “as Christ loves the church, and gave Himself up for her.” Etc. God’s ultimate purpose is to bring glory to himself, through restoration of relationship with His people. This is no exception.


  3. Donna

    I realize this was posted over two years ago. However, it is important to note that, while God does give us partnership and pleasure through marriage, those were not by any means God’s primary purpose for marriage. God created marriage as a means for us to live out the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If you read Ephesians 5 (any other scriptural references), men are told to love their wives “as Christ loves the church, and gave Himself up for her.” Etc. God’s ultimate purpose is to bring glory to himself, through restoration of relationship with His people. This is no exception…


    1. Danielle Shepherd

      Thank you for this Donna. Companionship, pleasure, purity and procreation are blessings for us in marriage but as you said, ultimately marriage is a means for God to bring glory to Himself.


  4. Folarin

    Thank God for the institution of marriage! When entered into as God’s children and used according to His “Word” directives, It gives us the altimate
    fulfilments of our lives. Our wrold is better for it. God bless and multiply
    Christian homes.


  5. Jimmy I.

    Yes of a truth, He created and formed us; and so we must allow God’s purpose concerning marriage to fulfil in our lives. My prayer is that God will give us sanctified homes. Homes already shreaded by the devil making bitter should be made sweet and pieces home mended. Amen


  6. Sam

    hello god, how are you?
    i must save you are my hero and love everything you have acheived! i wan to be just like you.
    i love you write back soonies (L)
    xxxxxxxx SAM xxxxxxxx


  7. thanks alot for enlighten us on the purpose of marriage.

    my question here is this, supossing one married and there is no blessing of offspring and the wife always complaimt of paint when meeting the husband does it means that wife you married is not your wife ?
    what kind of a devil is this ?

    can want continue to stay like that ?

    your advice pls.


    1. Silas, that’s a great challenge you have there. Marriage is meant to be beautiful. However, it has many thorns and thistles along the way. Sexual intercourse in a married relationship is ordained of God and even the scriptures encourage husbands and wives not to deny one another the pleasure of it. Pain during sexual intercourse is usually a medical problem. You and your wife should meet a doctor. A gynecologist should be talking and examining your wife. Also, you and your wife should be able to sit down and talk about this problem and decide what you want to do if after seeing a doctor, the pain does not go away and your wife is not able to enjoy sexual intimacy with you. You can reexamine your relationship with a free ebook which I am giving away – “Wrong Reasons For Getting Married.” This book would help reassess your relationship and see the way forward. Good luck.


  8. Thanks very much for such a wonderful insights. Many people are experiencing great marital unrest; marriage full of frustrations and disappointments because of their inadequate understanding of God’s purpose concerning marriage. I am highly impress and i pray God’s blessings on you.

    My question is; why do people delay their marriages in this contemporary days? Can delayed marriage affect the spiritual and the socio-economic growth of the church? i will be glad if send your responses to me through my email. thanks.


  9. Annij

    I’m trying to understand the reasons for why so many Churches denounce gay marriage. If one of the four tenets of a biblical marriage is to produce offspring, what to do with couples who are infertile? Because in truth, and hopefully I speak to “reasonable men”, (the truth being true and “reasonable”) attempting to convert people to a particular Christian doctrine proves difficult when the only response is: “Well homosexuality is wrong…because, and that’s why.” Aside from this answer not being very helpful, how does this answer comfort those who deeply struggle with a homosexual inclination or as LGBT activists argue an immutable orientation? I do truly want to know the answer to this. I am a Christian myself and have little to no answer for those I study with. Although I am not gay myself, my spouse and I are unable to conceive. Thus I do feel a tremendous affinity for gay couple friends of ours who also wish to have children.

    At this point, I do not see a logical reason for this. Obviously different Churches have different approaches to this issue, and certainly not all Churches ascribe to a Biblical world view for their doctrine. Thus answers can be as whimsical as “Well, take comfort, we’ll all be genderless in heaven” (that’s great, what about right now?), to outright sinful (I’m sure I don’t need to describe the sin of bigotry, criticalness, callousness and generally not handling the word of truth “in love” and humility.)

    The reason it IS important to have a logical reason is that the burden of proof is on the Christian–we must bear the burden of proof. God and the soul being converted will bear the burden of conversion.

    Lastly, I am a little concerned with your description of men being “honourable”, and women being “virtuous”. The Christ like standard requires that women be both honourable and virtuous, and men be both virtuous and honourable, in equal proportion. In the 22 years of being a Christian I have not seen that virtuousness is a greater struggle for women, and honourableness is a greater struggle for a man. We are the human race and struggle alike.

    If you have time, please kindly reply to me via e-mail.




  10. eric

    Hello, i have a pertinent issue that has been disturbing me for some time and would like to seek your advice. i am age 31 having three kids with a woman i don’t love and have never loved. i find it so difficult to live with her in the same house. I wanna get married but my fiancee is so afraid to take this crucial steps because of my three kids. She is even at a state of dumping me where as i truly love her and would not like to loose her. i would like you advice me on what to do


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